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Prickly Path
 

“In youth, it was a way I had,
To do my best to please.
And change, with every passing task
To suit the day's demands.

But now I know the things I know
And do the things I do,
And if you do not like me so,
To hell, my love, with you.”

 

 Modified from Dorothy Parker quote

The BRIEF:'

 

     I finished high school and college in the 1960’s. Since, I have put six decades of adventures, inventions, triumphs and serendipity behind me. Looking back where I started is blurry. So much has advanced and been updated. Once fundamental particles of physics are now full of stuff. Automobiles I maintained are now serviced by machines. And yet, most of what I value continues. The people I’ve got to know are precious and have me looking forward to the time I have left. I still have my wits and senses, love to learn, and eagerly look forward to opening the mysteries each new day holds.

     Given that, let me start this thread by reminding everyone how Bob Dylan profoundly said, “The Times They Are A-Changin’,” in 1964, the year I finished high school. Still an uncertain kid watching our world open before me, it wasn't the straight line I expected, and how! But that kid didn't pay much attention to Dylan’s words – that people open their minds to change. Today I understand how that song’s goal shaped my life by revealing the steady groove of time as it played out. The masterpiece spells out inevitable consequences as time rolls along; “the waters around have grown … soon you will be drenched to the bone … mothers and fathers throughout the land … don’t criticize what you can’t understand …. your old road is rapidly aging.” I’ve sung this song as part of a local chorale. For me the music’s cadence magically lifts its message into the stratosphere and brings back a brief glimpse of that young man's dreams.

      But my life moved on after school. Loves of music, working with my hands, the outdoors, and the many other things that fill young men’s minds went adrift. Work, while raising a family and then in task-filled airplane flights to prepare for and scramble through volumes of meetings as a senior manager, consumed many years. I did my best to adjust to mankind’s expectations and managed to maintain a modicum of personal continuity. These were the things that filled the years before I retired early and saved my life. In retrospect, that opportunity that came a decade before normal retirement age should have been an easy decision. In the face of conflicting uncertainty, my ego had said no, as did habitual “luxuries” like business-class travel, too much booze, and a fat paycheck. These were powerful and extended the stressful battle.

    I truthfully don’t remember when the tide turned. It probably happened on one of many long flights over the north pole. For years I’d known companies sucked everything a person was willing to give out of them. Booze dulled realization. The how came over an airplane music system, I heard Joe Cocker’s, She Came in through the Bathroom Window. Then almost forgotten, it was one of several songs that took my breath away when young. Those bright opening guitar chords and Cocker’s powerful vocal came back to shock me. It proved a wakeup call. My life then was going to end in one of two ways: dead from a heart attack or in divorce, followed by a nasty disabled retirement. The times had changed. The waters had grown, and I was drenched to the bone.

    Carol and I talked. We had a lovely large home we’d have to sell. She had put up with so much to enable my career while fitfully building her own business then in hiatus due to my work’s demands. We both hungered for an alternative that would keep us physically active and fit with other needs. Our youngest was off to college. We talked out downsides and started looking, then bought a farm. Read on for the whole story and much more.

 

 

 

 

 

HOW I GOT HERE

      It was the middle of April, 2001. The day we landed on 32 acres of farmland in Central California. The week before we celebrated Carol’s fifty-something birthday. I’d retired early from my company job four months before. We spent much of what we had and took out a loan to make this moment happen – waking up on property we’d fallen in love with. 
     That first morning, I crawled out of bed in our tiny and shabby new home. We’d drove a pickup we just bought with our bed and a few other things down from our beautiful Bay Area home, now up for sale, the day before. Not quite up to the hints of mouse-droppings inside, I sipped morning coffee standing outside the front door in warm sun and considered just how insane this was. 
     The house could be upgraded, except we had no income beyond a meager pension from the job I left. There was no business plan as I looked across our patch of rich hilly soil at an orange orchard. Unhappy looking trees obviously needed water. I’d have to figure out how to make that happen after some coffee. The most noticeable feature was weeds, already a few feet tall in the California warmth. My eyes immediately went to sun kissed hills across Santa Rosa Creek at the bottom of our property. This view was among untold tantalizing reasons we were here. I’ll probably get to those other reasons to make this story whole. We’ll see. But as stunning as the sight was, the churning worry that had worked my belly for weeks wouldn’t go away.

     Carol walked out of the house. “We have a farm!” she said sipping her coffee through a huge smile. 
     “Yeah,” I replied less eagerly. 
     We stood there, arms around one another, taking in the panorama on this tiny parcel of the world we were crazy about. Unmentioned that morning was that getting things going was uncharted territory. Both of us fit and relatively young, we had chosen this path. We knew the challenge we’d looked for, with uncertainty ahead, was what we signed on to. 
     Within weeks, my hands were really dirty. Evenings were filled with starting a consulting business based on my 30-year career. And, we’d already ordered five hundred blueberries to plant in great soil down by Santa Rosa Creek. We were excited to experiment with the first varieties of blueberries tailored to grow in California. Heightened euphoria helped to stave off the state of vulnerability. 

       The next few months, a couple of years, in truth, were filled with seventy hour weeks, as if I'd never left the old job. I didn't mind a bit. Each of those hundred or so weeks were chock full of learning, new friends, and, lastly, money to pay the bills. Starting a business is an exciting thing. All the events that fill the media, like 911, became something Carol and I talked about until we got to something important: what were going to do tomorrow and next week.
     Twenty-four years since 911 those blueberries we planted are more than five feet tall and topped with fruit that will be ready to harvest in several weeks. More plots were planted. Locals became accustomed to finding fresh blueberries at the several farmers markets we sold at. So much more to tell, as well, about this magic plot of land that helped me tune out mundane politics, constant exhaustion, and too much booze that once controled and limited me. I still stand outside the door of our handsomely remodeled house in sunshine with coffee. 
     Not gone, weeds remain an easily forgotten, constant chore. Acres of avocado trees adorn once barren hillsides and enhance the spectacular natural beauty. It continues to charm me. Below the porch the sun glistens off webs covering dozens of tarantula holes in a small unplanted area next to our house, and I await the adult ‘wolf spiders’ annual fall trek down the hill in the fall. There’s too much more to even begin a recount here. Maybe I’ll get to some of it later. 
     At almost eighty, we’ve stopped planting and have cut back our business – it’s time to move on. But buying this weedy, poorly maintained 32 acres and the ragged small house was no doubt our best decision ever. It’s very sad to leave a place and business we’ve put so much of ourselves into. But happily, we have found folks interested in turning this plot into their dream.
      My connection to the land blossomed with these years away from the city. Challenges of corporate work were mind-numbing with constant travel. What fills me now will no doubt make the years I have remaining far more satisfying. It may well prove impossible to explain why, but for a first time in my life I can carefully consider and then attempt to flesh out concepts like my connection to the land. And this is my start to a bigger story than you might possibly imagine.

      The few of you who live near Cambria, California will be accustomed to seeing me at the Friday afternoon farmer’s market. Dragon Spring Farm was well known for oranges, avocados, blueberries, fresh-picked summer vegetables and the many “value-added” products (California’s name) that came out of Carol’s Kitchen. Much of this will still be at the Cambria market under the care of new owners, The Stardust Grove. Our daughter, Rebecca, and husband Jeff are also there with produce from their nearby farm, Better Organics. 
      Meanwhile, Carol and I plan to give our old bones a rest while trying to keep our bodies and brains healthy. Decades of experience over a bunch of callings help us keep calm in the face of hysteria that occupies today’s media. What we’ve experienced in the six decades since Dylan said, “The Times They Are A-Changin’,” might provide some eye openers for many readers. 

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